"No Theory in LOVE" Theory

Few months back, i was sitting in garden and my friend "A" came to me..seems to be quite frustrated and red hot. He was quite silent for few mins and so m i. Finally i decieded to break the ICE. I asked "wat happened bros...u dont seems to be in right mood'. He replied after taking a long breath "Kabeer man, I know u r quite good in managing relationships and understand the intriguing girls". I thought "do i really". Futher he continued "But u know wat i hate them". I intervened "Why wat happened to u today? U used to adore girls and their power of changing THE MAN". he rejoined by saying "did i tell the power of infidelity they possess". Finally he broke the ice "Kabeer, I had a break up yaar. I cant explain how bad she has done to me. I even couldnt dreamed of it that she ll do this to me...I mean to me. I hate her Kabeer, I hate her... did u get it I hate her now."

Well this was the same man who even never allow me to make fun of her or to put a joke on their emotional relationship. What happened in just few days. I really used to respect their 4 year relationship. They were quite good in understanding. I cant reveal the reason why they broke up but it was a simple misunderstanding which wasnt fault of any1. It was just a simple gender difference which caused the conflagration. Well i tried to soothe him... Took him away for dinner and all. While returning home late in night, driving at speed of 100 km/h. Thoughts were flowing and questions were ragging in mind at lightening speed. The first question came in my mind. "What is love ?". Atleast this isnt the love in which a person start hating his or her beloved only bcz he or she couldnt get his or her so-called love. Atleast not. atleast this isnt the love in which a so-called a strong wall of four year relationship of trust and committment broke with a throw of light stone. Atleast this isnt the love in which promises for living lifes together forgotten in instances. "I LOVE YOU" sentence converted into "I HATE YOU" without any reason. If someone really call it love....GIVE ME A BREAK.... Then i would never ever say to anyone that "I love you"...Indeed i would never like to fall in love.

Well coming back to story, Now it has been a time now. I talked his GF "G" as she is also very good friend of mine. I was the bridge in both of them. "GOD, HAVE U CREATED ME ONLY FOR THIS. What about ME". Whatever, i never mind in managing relationships, both told their side of stories, and both werent willing to continue. G called me one night, "kabeer, thanks for support and being such a good friend, i wish everyboy could be like u (i thought WoW compliment) I called to say, I am sorry i dont want to conitnue this anymore so plz stop pushing me, i ll manage myself and u r there to manage him as well". It wasn't she alone who didnt want to continue.

So, what i have learnt. n did i get my answer of my question...? or yet not. "What is love..?". I started doing a survey asking girls and boys about it. Majority of the girls replied "Love is all about care". Really, i was wondering how can they have so mutual understanding and unfortunately boys weren’t serious about it.

Now what i think about THE LOVE..? From my POV, I believe Love is the noble, unprecedented and indescribable feeling. The feeling which is independent of thing that u got ur love or not. It really doesn’t matter. Love isn't about Possessiveness at all. Like, Usually BFs don’t want their GFs to talk with other guys. I asked them WHY. Don’t u want to c her happy. If she feels good while talking with other guy then it never means she doesnt love u anymore. Indeed, Love is about Independence, support, acceptance, approval and encouragement. If one doesnt get his or her love, it never means he or she wasnt the love. and that’s what usually people do. And that’s where the problem is. I am really feel sorry bcz they themselves cause the embarrassment to their so-called LOVE. If in few words, Love is all about trust and commitment. Because with trust comes the understanding, with understanding comes the respect. With respect comes the Care. With Care comes the LOVE. With Love comes the INSPIRATION of LIFE. With Inspiration Comes the Success.

Bottom of the story is, If someone wants to truly feel the love then stop thinking does he or she love me as well. Instead of that, enjoy the feeling of how much you love them. And that's what I called "No Theory in Love" Theory.

Best of LUCK for your LOVE LIFE. May God bring real essence of LOVE in everyone's life to make their life more colorful than ever.

One more thing drop ur comments as well...regarding this...question in my mind..wat do u think "WHAT IS LOVE?"

Happy Loving.